Dildo use is pretty widespread, and a recent survey in a monthly glossy magazine reported that 20% of young professional women between the ages of 24 and 35 carry a dildo with most of the time. Self-pleasure has proven to have health benefits and can lead to better sex life through self-discovery.
What is a dildo?
There is some debate over what constitutes a dildo. The consensus is that a non-vibrating device, resembling a penis shape, size, and overall appearance is a dildo. Women more commonly now associate vibrating devices in that definition. Prosthetic aids or penis extensions can also be included as can sex toys/aids for anal penetration such as butt plugs although not everyone associates them with the term dildo.
The development of the dildo
Believe it or not, the sex toy use goes back way into history. The world oldest dildo is a siltstone 20cm phallus dated 30,000 years old found in a cave in Germany. It is known that ancient Egyptians used dildos over 2,500 years ago.
The first dildos were made of wood, leather, and pottery. In the 1940’s technology intervened thank goodness and PVC and rubber were introduced as were steel springs for stiffness.
Now today we girls have silicone dildos that are easy to keep clean, inexpensive and high for the firsts time user. The latest material to gain a following is Pyrex glass that is expensive and inflexible, but some women just love the feel of.
How the Dildo can be used
There are many uses for the dildo but the most common uses apart from vaginal/clitoral stimulation such as for fetishist value. Partners may use them for foreplay running them over the skin. They may be used for anal or even oral penetration if of the right size. People often use them as a sort of artificial fellatio.
The Wonderful world of the dildo
There is so much choice dildos come in all various shapes and can even be double ended making for twice the fun in the right environment. There are inflatable dildos, dildos with balls, flare based or even those with suction cups for easier control (can be placed on an inanimate object).
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What to look for when buying a dildo
The three most important aspects of the buying of a dildo are shape, material, and color. A woman wants something that looks and feels good. Most dildos are made of rubber. Even with rubber, there are different types with jelly rubber being quite popular and coming in attractive colors.
Silicone rubber is of better quality and has the added benefits of retaining body heat well, it’s resilient, non-porous and can be boiled to sterilize. Silicone also feels great when vibrating and is great when used for clitoral stimulation. Silicone comes in a vast range of sizes, shapes, and colors so you may find something appropriate for you.
Hard plastic dildos are inflexible, and many women just don’t like the feel of them. If women use these, then it is often only for short periods of time. I would suggest that hard plastic is only for more experienced dildo users.
When buying a dildo think about what you need from them and it is better to start a little smaller rather that go for one too big. Dildos aren’t cheap, and they are certainly not returnable so for newbies a jelly rubber dildo could be the ideal starting point.
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The Dildo Improve Sex Within The Couple – Choosing a Harness Dildo
Harness Dildos have slowly made their way into mainstream consciousness. The first time a woman straps on a fully equipped harness dildo maybe a comical site. For any women it certainly a novel experience looking between her thighs and seeing a penis shaped sex toy looking back at her. It is crucial to get used to it so walking around in the harness dildo for a while will soon allow you to become comfortable with it.
A harness dildo isn’t about the substitution of the penis but allows couples to bring new ideas and techniques into their lovemaking for both partners to enjoy. It can let the woman in a straight/gay relationship to feel the power for the first time as she lives out a fantasy of control through different types of lovemaking. For a male who is open to suggestions, he can live out a fantasy of submission. The whole idea of the harness love aid is to open up the bedroom to experimentation, and this leads to great fun.
If you feel a dildo and sex toy harness may be ideal for you then I would suggest three different criteria that you may want to look out for when considering the right one:
- The dildo needs to have a broad flared base (for safety if things get a bit heated)
- Check the dildo is firm and flexible enough for harness use
- The dildo has at least average penis size i.e. at least 5.5 inches
When you are considering a harness love aid, you don’t need to use the whole length, but a small dildo can be very frustrating as you may end up not getting the desired penetration that you and your partner want. Firmer dildos are recommended for harness use. The ideal choice is the silicone option if they are affordable and in your budget.
The Dildo Improve Sex Within The Couple – Choosing a Cyberskin Dildo.
Now used a general term for dildos that feel very soft and using the most up to date technology have a life like skin feel to them. Cyberskin dildos are made to feel as realistic as possible in weight and density of a real male member as well as in the overall outer skin feel.
Cyberskin was a brand name of a particular dildo but now describes all dildos that have a soft outside but a solid core that simulates a length so well. The reality of the Cyberskin love aid is not everyone cups of tea. The whole idea for some women is to experience something different, and they go for other types of dildo such as the jelly rubber type. If though you are going for realism then the Cyberskin dildo fits the bill like no other.
The are problems with the Cyberskin dildo in that they are not very durable and hygienically not easy to keep clean because to make them feel realistic they are made of porous materials. It is hard to clean them properly and cannot be sterilized like silicone dildos.
It is due to this porous nature that those that do decide to purchase a Cyberskin dildo also use a condom to keep them clean (although this obviously takes a little away from the pleasure of the realistic feel).
It also recommended that you use only water-based lubricants when using the Cyberskin dildos because other lubricants could harm the soft surface of the product.
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